how do you paint yourself?

whats wrong with society now a days, everybody is confused with who they are and what they want to be, it all depends on how you want to be viewed or portrayed, create an image that you can be proud of, but now, no one has eyes, looking in the mirror, staring not at who they are but what they look like, what happened to dressing like a man, what happened to acting like a woman, but it all depends on how you define a man, is one who devourer six packs, big ass belly, rugged personality, no way im going to be like that when im 40, 50 or even 60, a man is a provider, holds his ground when shit gets rough, lives for himself, wife and his kids, never close to imprisonment in the bin, never close to designer products, manicure, knows how to handle torture, intellectual but not cocky, fit but not showy, attractive to only one woman, clean cut, never messy or pretty, fucking, why isn't society portraying them, where are they, all i see are commercials of pretty men with shaved chests, clean faces, fuck, im all for sensitivity, but only in front of your wifey, im all for higher self esteem but keep it clean not pretty, damn where is our society heading when the supposedly head of the family is either cheating on his wife or acting all faggity, what are your kids going to say, im telling you its all about what you want to paint, how you want to be portrayed.